The family is the oldest institution in society. At present, it can be described as a voluntary union of a man and a woman who leads a common household created for the purpose of the birth and upbringing of children.
For centuries, various formsmarriage. Nowadays two types of family are most common: patriarchal and partner. The differences between them are very significant both in the composition of the family and in the manner in which responsibilities and responsibilities are distributed.
Affiliate family - it's parents and children, however,it can consist only of spouses. Parents' parents in this case live, as a rule, separately, and brothers and sisters, uncles and aunts are already considered "strangers" without having influence on the family. Decisions in the family are made jointly by husband and wife. Examples of a partner family can often be found among educated, financially successful people.
The partner type of family is also calleddemocratic because of the even distribution of responsibilities and responsibilities. A woman can do everything herself, but preparing dinner, while watching children and hanging clean clothes, in such families is not accepted. The husband takes on a part of the trouble, for example, helps to cook or can wash the dishes after dinner. Signs of the partner family - mutual understanding, trust and honesty. The trust between spouses in such a family is the cornerstone of relations. Close people have nothing to hide from each other, because to discuss the problem and solve it together is more convenient. The difficulties that arise are solved by those of the spouses who are better versed in the matter, but always by mutual consent.
It turns out almost an ideal picture: life does not jam, the family gives protection from the outside world, the husband and wife respect and appreciate each other. The only problem is that a family of a partner type is a rarity. Too strong, on the one hand, stereotypes about the superiority of men over women and "women's responsibilities", and even when relations are initially built on mutual arrangements, often all the domestic routine along with the work falls on the woman. On the other hand, traditionally, it is the man who is the main source of money in the family, and partnership relations imply that financial obligations are equally divided equally.
If a man and a woman decide to createit is not worthwhile afterwards to try to regulate relations on the basis of traditional norms, we should clearly adhere to the agreements reached and openly discuss necessary changes in the form of a dialogue.
When both spouses are ready to give birth to a child,the partner family is the most convenient environment for the upbringing of children. First, it is easier to provide psychological comfort to a young mother in a family with a trusting relationship. Secondly, everyone knows how difficult it is with an infant in the first months of life: a rigid diet with breastfeeding, the child is constantly on his hands and sleeps badly at night. In traditional families, the pope comes home from work, as a rule, expects to see order in the house, a delicious dinner, an affectionate wife and a smiling baby ... Affiliate family is an option in which a man honestly recognizes all the difficulties and shares them with his wife: he can cook dinner himself , get up at night to a child or iron your underwear. Of course, in traditional families husbands also help women at this time, but more "by kindness of heart" than from a sense of duty.
Modern research has shown that kids,Both boys and girls need the attention of the pope from birth. A family of partner type gives it much more than a patriarchal one. Another important advantage is the example of parents living in an atmosphere of respect and readiness for dialogue. Children learn to solve problems arising in relationships, easily and effectively. Growing up, they keep a trusting relationship with their parents, it is easier to pass the crisis of growing up.